Growing up, the most condescending “you’ll understand once you are older” came from people who were either physically out of shape, financially irresponsible, drinking every day, treating their family with disrespect, never reading and assuming they knew better and were special; fast-forward a few decades, the main thing I understand is that life is indeed very hard when you don’t understand the value of a healthy lifestyle, when you don’t make the effort to understand how money moves in society, when you enjoy feeling numb instead of being focused, when you can’t be kind and thoughtful to the people who matter the most, when you stop learning with the humility of a beginner.