Women HATE it when you obey them. They want you to be so impressive that they obey you without thinking. I am impressive in maybe a dozen different ways. A few of them are popular. Some of my impressive traits are so developed that most women I date will never see them twice. I will always be "the only guy who could _____." This has given me a lot of power in the past. You just say "I will leave" and they figure out how to stop being difficult. Stop focusing on what's "fair" and what you "deserve" and start focusing on being impressive. You can't be the best at everything, but you can be the best she's ever seen at one or two things. There isn't even anything else to do with your life. Get good at things that matter, that's it. You can do that just because it's fun, and women will like it by accident. There's way too many men who REFUSE to get good at ANYTHING and then still complain.