Observing my peers in their late 20's/early 30's, I increasingly get the sense that it is very difficult for people to heal and move on from parent-child relationship trauma. Some days I feel that most of them are destined to have key personality traits and anxieties be forever shackled by some of these unresolved trauma. Children are born into the world and are exposed to a random selection of their parents' own unresolved traumas. These traumas significantly shape their personalities and attitudes, and resolving them is a major part of the growing-up process. But these traumas are difficult to resolve, and sufficient overcoming usually is the result of intentional self therapy. I like to think of the relationship between childhood trauma and personalities like so: every child has a large set of future outcomes for how their adult personalities will turn out, but the kids who do not resolve their childhood traumas will never be able to reach their true potential and inhabit their outlier "best" future personalities. So, recently, I've been wondering what % of people can ever reach escape velocity and move their destiny out of the gravitational pull of parent-child trauma? Moreover, what allows these successful resolvers of childhood trauma to succeed? Is it some lucky personality trait they were genetically endowed with, is it the fortune of meeting the right mentor/friend(s) at the right time, or something else?